The proper way to address wedding invitations

Once you’ve decided on your wedding invitation wording and it’s time to slide your beautiful invitation safely inside its envelope, there’s still the matter of what to write on the front. But deciding how to address envelopes for everyone on your guest list isn’t as simple as it sounds. With different scenarios to consider (married couples, unmarried couples, singletons, those with plus ones and so on) and titles to get right (Ms. Mr. Dr. etc), it’s easy to forget where to start. So to offer a helping hand when you’ve got a million other things to prep and plan, we’ve put together this quick, simple guide to wedding envelope addressing.

To a single male

Use ‘Mr’ if the person is over 18. Otherwise omit.

Contemporary: Joel Harrison

Traditional: Mr Joel Harrison or Mr Harrison

To a single female

Traditionally, ‘Ms’ is used by women regardless of their marital status and ‘Miss’ for unmarried women, usually those under 18. Of course, these are old-fashioned rules, and today you can go with whatever you like!

Contemporary: Yasmin Lin

Traditional: Ms Yasmin Lin or Ms Lin

To a single person with a plus one

The envelope should only feature the name of the person you know, and the invitation should include their name ‘and guest.’

Contemporary: Lillie Ellis

Traditional: Miss Lillie Ellis or Miss Ellis

To an unmarried couple

For unmarried couples who live at the same address, include both names on one line, listing the person closest to you first. If you know the couple equally well, place the names in alphabetical order.

Contemporary: Ed and Kara

Traditional: Mr Ed Parsons and Ms Kara Porter

To a married couple

Contemporary: Carlos and Maria or Mr Carlos & Maria Hamilton

Traditional: Mr and Mrs Hamilton or Mr & Mrs Carlos Hamilton

To a married couple with different surnames

Once again, list the person you're closest with first. If you know both guests equally well, it’s tradition to open with female’s name.

Contemporary: Georgina Evans and Simon Khan or Mr Khan & Mrs Evans

Traditional: Mrs Georgina Evans and Mr Simon Khan

To a family with children

Contemporary: The Underwoods

Traditional: Mr and Mrs Simon Underwood, Lola, Charles and Eva.

To children of friends/family 18 and older

The children of friends and family who are over 18 and no longer live with their parents should receive their own invitation

Contemporary: Rachel or Miss Thompson

Traditional: Ms. Rachel Thompson

To a single person with a title

Contemporary: Dr Smiles

Traditional: Doctor Erica Smiles

To a married person with a title

Contemporary: Dr Isabelle and Mr Josh Steele (if the woman takes her husband’s name day-to-day)

Traditional: Professor Andrew Jackson and Mrs Angela Johnson

Inner envelope & outer envelopes

There’s also the option to place your wedding invitation and its envelope within an outer envelope to protect it from getting marked or bent in the post. As a general rule of thumb, the outer envelope tends to be more formal, featuring your guest’s full name with title and their full address. The inner envelope is more informal and can show just a first name, their last name and title, or initials.

Our envelope addressing options

At Papier, we offer recipient addressing and return envelope addressing. Upload your guests’ addresses and a return address, special date or initials to the reverse of your envelopes, and we’ll print each one neatly for you. It’ll add a beautiful finishing touch to your Papier post and save you tons of handwriting, freeing up precious time so you can get on with planning the rest of your big day.

Recipient addressing – 25p per envelope

You can upload your recipient addresses by downloading and completing our handy spreadsheet, or add them manually one by one.

Add your return address - 25p per envelope

Include a return address or add your name, initials or a special date for a sophisticated touch. Whatever you write will show across the back of all your envelopes.

It’s time to address your wedding invitations. This is one of those wedding tasks that seems quite simple until you begin. Then suddenly, you’re hit with all sorts of questions. No worries, we’ve got you.

A little advice before we get started – don’t simply dive right in to addressing those envelopes. You’ll want to ask yourself a few questions before you begin the process of adding your guest’s names to those perfectly blank envelopes.

First, think about the formality of your wedding. This will affect the way you address your invitation envelopes. A black-tie affair might call for one style of addressing while a casual country wedding will use a more informal approach. We’ve included examples for both formal and informal addressing below.

And second, decide how you’ll address those envelopes. Hire a calligrapher, find a generous friend who has fantastic handwriting or create custom printed labels right from your computer.

There are a few rules you’ll want to follow, even if your wedding is on the casual side:

To a Single Guest

Formal Addressing:
Ms. Samantha Anderson
56 North Ridge Drive
Hartinger, California 28495

Informal:
Sam Anderson
56 North Ridge Drive
Hartinger, CA 28495

To a Single Guest Plus Date

Formal Addressing:
Ms. Anderson & Guest
56 North Ridge Drive
Hartinger, California 28495

Informal:
Sam Anderson and Guest
56 North Ridge Drive
Hartinger, CA 28495

To a Married Couple

Formal Addressing:
Mr. and Mrs. Anthony James
56 North Ridge Drive
Hartinger, California 28495

Informal:
Anthony and Sara James
56 North Ridge Drive
Hartinger, CA 28495

To an Unmarried Couple at Same Address

Formal Addressing:
Ms. Sara Trent
Mr. Anthony James
56 North Ridge Drive
Hartinger, California 28495

Informal:
Sara and Anthony
56 North Ridge Drive
Hartinger, CA 28495

To a Family with Children

Formal Addressing:
Mr. and Mrs. Anthony James and Family
56 North Ridge Drive
Hartinger, California 28495

Informal:
Anthony and Sara James and Family
56 North Ridge Drive
Hartinger, CA 28495

We hope you found this addressing advice and examples helpful! Give us a shout if you need any help as you choose and personalize your wedding invitations and more! xoxo

What is the correct way to address wedding invitations?

The woman's name usually appears first and can be prefaced using "Miss" or "Ms." On the outer envelope, write each formal title and name on a separate line. On the inner envelope, drop the first names and refer to each invitee using their title and last name.

How do you address a wedding invitation to Mr and Mrs?

Married Couples: Formal Traditionally for married couples, you include the male's first and last name (i.e. Mr. and Mrs. Kenneth Arendt). It's likely the most familiar and the most common way to address envelopes.

How do you address a wedding invitation with a guest?

James Smith and Guest,” the two envelope system works well. Address the outer envelope to “Mr. James Smith” and the inner envelope to “Mr. James Smith and Guest.” If you're only using one envelope, include a short note with your invitation: “Dear James, You're welcome to bring a guest to the wedding.

What is the etiquette for wedding invitations?

Traditionally, invitations go out six to eight weeks before the wedding. That timeline gives guests plenty of leeway to clear their schedules and make travel arrangements if they don't live in town. If it's a destination wedding, give guests more time and send them out three months ahead of the wedding.